Many of us struggle with the idea and act of forgiveness. Forgiveness can help when struggling with issues of anger, depression, and problems in relationships. In understanding forgiveness, it’s important to note forgiveness is not the same as acceptance, excuses, reconciliation, or pardons (Weeks, Gambescia, & Jenkins, 2003). Forgiveness is not acceptance, accommodation, or a gift. Forgiveness is “…a volitional act or a conscious decision on the part of the offended partner [and] is an expression of altruism” (Weeks et al., 2003, p. 128). Forgiveness helps us release anger we are holding on to from the person who offended us, helps move past desires for retaliation, and helps us and others around us recover from intense emotional states (Weeks et al., 2003). Forgiveness does not happen in a day. It takes time. Also while apologies are helpful, they are not a necessary ingredient for forgiveness (Freedman & Zarifkar, 2016). The road to forgiving can be a long one and counseling can help you reach your forgiveness goals and heal yourself and your relationships.
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Freeman, S., & Zarifkar, T. (2016). The psychology of interpersonal forgiveness and guidelines for forgiveness therapy: What therapists need to know to help their clients forgive. Spirituality in Clinical Practice, 3, 45-58. doi:10.1037/scp0000087
Weeks, G. R., Gambescia, N., & Jenkins, R. E. (2003). Treating infidelity: Therapeutic dilemmas and effective strategies. New York, NY: W. W. Norton.